Monday, April 1, 2013

WHY ARE YOU WASTING TIME WITH YOUR TEMPORARY?

Life is a beautiful thing, which I sincerely thank God for, especially when one learns from their mistakes. However, it is unfortunate for some of us that we have to make several mistakes to get the full understanding of whatever it is we should be learning.

This article is about making what should have been a temporary relationship into a permanent one. My aim and object is to show you the purpose of a temporary relationship, why it should not be a permanent one, the damage it does when it becomes one and finally the signs of a temporary relationship.

The majority of us at one time or another have had more than one relationship, and for the most part, when we take a glance back in time we thank God that we did not make those people whom we thought, we were in love with our lifetime mates. Nevertheless, some of us do marry the temporaries and are presently living unhappy lives or should I say incomplete lives.

As with my previous articles, I desire to use biblical principle as the foundation and build my points upon that. The scripture that I will be using is (2cor 2:18) in this scripture Paul is preaching to the people in Corinth and this is what he had to say, “While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Every relationship that you would have encountered throughout your life should be viewed as building blocks to your ultimate relationship, which would be your husband or wife. For the most part, people that jump into a relationship and immediately get married, without considering if that relationship was supposed to be permanent or temporary, they are possibly in for a rude awakening.

I make the comparison of relationships to schooling. Just like school, each class gives you enough information for that particular time, because no one course teaches you everything. It prepares you for the next level you will eventually move to, and at the end of all your classes, you will then hopefully graduate. Well, relationships are no different, each one was intended for you not only to enjoy, but most importantly to learn from, and prepare you for your lifelong relationship with your husband or wife.

History will show that people with little to no experience in relationships are more likely to make poor decisions as opposed to people that have more experience with relationships. I want to place importance on experience here because it is vital to what I am about to say next.

You see because we are creatures of comparison it is crucially significant that we gain much experience or knowledge in whatever it is that we are about to venture into. What I mean by creatures of comparison is merely this. Whatever decision we select in life more than likely we’ve compared it either to a former experience or someone else’s experience We then make a decision. It is almost like we go into our memory archives and pull out a file that is remotely close to whatever it is we are dealing with at that time and go from there. For instance, if you had a bad relationship where your partner cheated, and you decided to end that relationship and go into another, if your new partner does anything that remotely reminds you of what your Ex-did to you, immediately you throw yourself into a defensive mode. Why? Because again you automatically begin to compare your past experience with your present relationship.

So my point here is; that the quality of your decision making is purely based on the experiences that you have had in that particular area which you are making a decision on. If you have ample experience, chances are you would make a more sound decision as opposed to no experience, your judgment is more likely to be impaired.

People are typically entrapped by their temporary mate’s permanently, because of what they see on the outside. They are caught up by the surface, they are bound or should we say held hostage by their five senses (see, smell, taste, hear, touch) which when left unchallenged can place us in a state of misery. This is why the Apostle Paul said, “set not your eyes on the things that you see” or things that are governed by your five senses. Because these things are subject to change and are in fact changing before your very eyes, but focus on what you don’t see, or what is possibly being kept from you such as that person’s character, which is permanent or eternal like Paul said.

A person’s character should be the deciding factor as to whether or not a person is just a temporary. One might possess a radiant smile, mannerly, a good shape, or even loving from the outside, which is all good but at the same time, it is only a superficial image. However with character, even after they would have displayed all the nice outward stuff, are they that same person when they leave your presence? What are they like when they are alone, or better yet when they are in the company of others whom they are familiar with?

Do they maintain that same excellent behavior? Or do they possess a Jekyll and Hyde type character? My mother told me some time ago that a little can tell you what a lot will be like, and I am indeed influenced by this statement. The little things that appear to be insignificant in the relationship are a clear sign that there is a lot more where that came from.

A person can not hide their true identity. For example, a person may appear to be the sweetest person you have ever met, and then all of a sudden they display a real evil temper and spew a heap of profanity when they become upset. This is just a sample of the actual person on the inside trying to get out, and his name is (Mr. Character). The one Paul said you should concentrate on, remember the things you do not see, because he is sometimes very difficult to notice in the beginning, due to what I call the impressing stage.

Mr. Character is usually kept in the dark until that person has achieved their objective with you, whatever that might be (most likely sex). They might give excuses like I don’t really curse like that, or I didn’t mean to hit you or I did not mean to shout at you and the list goes on, what about this one? I did not mean to sleep with him/her it just happened.

If you are the kind of person that does not tolerate the above examples, and you have a certain standard that you have for relationships, then these are the clear signs of a temporary, the sole purpose of these people are for you to learn from them indirectly, because their lives are crammed with deceit and inconsistencies. To remain in this temporal relationship spells nothing short of disaster and unhappiness. These relationships were never ever meant to be permanent; it was just another class, painfully grooming you for the ultimate relationship.

So take a few minutes and look back on your past relationships that did not work out, you know, the ones that hurt so bad you couldn’t eat, you couldn’t think straight, and the all too common ones, being consumed by unnecessary worry and fear. We all have sometime or another experience it, but now that some of us overcame it, we should thank the folks that put us through it because they unknowingly played a hand in preparing us for the ultimate relationship……of course those of us who choose to learn from them.

Friends I would like to add, no relationship that you were a part of was by accident or mistake. That particular person whom you probably can’t stand to this day, like I said it was all building blocks for what you have now or what you are about to come into soon.

Remember this, in order to know what good is one, must experience bad, so all the bad relationships or temporaries as I would call them were all in an unknowing effort to make you not only appreciate, but recognize what good really is.

The principle of the bible did not say all things were good, but all things work together for good to them that love God and for them that are the called according to his purpose (Rom.8:28).

So as I have clearly shown you the relationship was no mistake, the mistake was trying to make something permanent that was only supposed to be temporal, but in an effort to make us appreciate and prepare us for the next exciting stage of our lives.

Written by: Kevin L.A Ewing

kevinewing@coralwave.com
kevinlaewing.blogspot.com

THE HYPOCRISY OF PARENTS, GUARDIANS, LEADERS ETC.

By far one of the most covert tragedies ever inflicted upon a human being is not the idea of that person being, shot, murdered, using drugs, being married to the wrong person, mentally challenges or the like.


Instead to our surprise the life of every human being will continue to be the sum total of the words spoken over their lives particularly by those that had the initial upbringing or influence of that individual such as their parents, guardians, leaders etc.

I will forever be left in a state of confusion by the hypocrisy of parents, guardians etc. when they repeat evil, condescending, hateful words to and over their children and when that child turn out to be exactly what they have been negatively repeating year after year, THEY BECOME SHOCKED THAT THE CHILD TURNED OUT EXACTLY WHAT THEY HAVE BEEN REPEATING ALL THIS TIME!

Unfortunately, many of these parents and the like still do not see or acknowledge their part in what their child has become as a result of their consistent negative spoken words. There are folks today who are in their 20s,30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s who are still challenged in their minds with issues such as confidence, fear, failed relationships, poor decision making and so much more all because what have been cement into them from a young age.

"You will be a cocaine addict just like your father", "No good man or woman will ever marry you", "Why can't you be decent like so and so kids", "You are so stupid, backward, retarded, good for nothing, useless", "I wish you were never born", "You are an embarrassment to this family" "Your children will be bastards just like you". Such words and many more have mold, shape and influenced the future of that child. What that parent, guardian or leader did not understand at that time was, they were actively participating in a law that I will reveal later that was securing the future or destiny of these kids.

Many of these parents words have been out of frustration, anger bitterness or just plain unforgiveness towards someone else. Nevertheless, this does not discount the fact that you were framing the life of your children's future and unknowingly using a law to do just that!

For the most part that child's life is so hard, confusing and frustrating today, not because they have not completed high school or college, not because they got pregnant or got someone pregnant at an early age, not because they entered a failed relationship or whatever. Instead the reality is, the things that you think has caused them to be in the position that they have found themselves in are ONLY THE BRANCHES OF THE ROOT! THE ROOT WAS CREATED YEARS AGO VIA THE WORDS OF YOUR EVIL, UNTAMED MOUTH THAT SPEWED THE VENOM THAT HAS NOW MANIFESTED THEIR CAGED EVIL FRUSTRATING BACKWARD WORLD.

I am led to speak specifically to parents, guardians, leaders and anyone that has had influence in shaping the lives of others especially young people........ STOP BLAMING THE GOVERNMENT, STOP BLAMING A SYSTEM, STOP BLAMING YOUR CHILDREN'S COMPANY, IN FACT STOP THE ENTIRE BLAME GAME AND BEGIN TO FOCUS IN ON THAT DESTRUCTIVE DOUBLE EDGE SWORD JUST BELOW YOUR NOSE THAT HAVE COVERTLY AND OVERTLY DESTROYED AND IMPRISONED THE LIVES OF SO MANY!

To the victims I say to you, cry out to God right now and ask him to release you from the evil words of the past and even present that has caged your life to the extent you have become the personification of the venom that have been spoken over you. I stand in complete agreement with you tonight that the all POWERFUL GOD CONTAINING THE FATHER, SON AND HOLY GHOST WILL RIGHT NOW BREAK EVERY CHAIN THAT HAVE BEEN PLACED ON YOU VIA THE EVIL WORDS OF THOSE THAT WERE OVER YOU IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST AND SET YOU FREE TO FINALLY BEGIN LIVING!

For those parents who are speaking success, life, health and making positive confessions over your children, you are not entirely out of the woods as yet. I say this because you don't know who have been speaking evil against your children. Therefore I am saying to you aside from speaking life over your children COVER YOUR CHILDREN EVERYDAY NOT ONLY WITH THE BLOOD OF JESUS BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY WITH THE WHOLE ARMOR OF GOD WHICH SCRIPTURE CLEARLY STATES WILL CAUSE THEM TO STAND AGAINST THE WILES OF THE DEVIL NOT IF BUT WHEN THE EVIL DAY COMES, Eph. 6:11,13.

In closing I want to say to you, the Devil is out for our children and his success will always be based on his conniving use of the law of God with the assistance of our help of course. The law says, "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it" Proverbs 22:6. Through the influence of Satan we are unconsciously being used by Satan in an effort in raising our children under a barrage of negativity and like scripture has predicted, when these kids get older they will not depart from it (the negativity spoken over them).

DEATH AND LIFE IS STILL RESIDENT IN THE POWER OF OUR TONGUES, PROVERBS 18:21.

My people will continue to be destroyed because they reject (available) knowledge, Hosea 4:6.

Written by: Kevin L A Ewingkevinewing@coralwave.com
kevinlaewing.blogspot.com