Tuesday, March 29, 2011

The quintessence of love

I am always in awe as a Christian when I hear preacher, teachers and Ministers of the gospel speak on the topic of love. My amazement is due to our well choreograph and articulate speeches concerning God’s love towards us, how we aught to love our neighbor as we love ourselves, love our wives as Christ love the church and gave his life for it, and to always love our enemies.

As we all know most of these teachings are more easily said than done and of course I am not discounting them in anyway. However my concern is how the church has abandoned the reality and the myriad of issues that face the love between a man and a woman. Loving one’s wives as Christ love the church and a woman being submissive to her husband in reality does not happen without major challenges. This is no new revelation, Even from the beginning after God blessed the union of Adam and Eve the evidence of walking together as a couple but not being on one accord began to emerge in their relationship when Eve decided to submit to the will of Satan rather than the will of God and her husband.

In the quintessence of love teaching today it is imperative that I not only take this love between a man and a woman from a realistic point of view, but make inclusive what our teachers have shun away from, that has left the average believer or person for that matter with no answers to the difficulties and challenges that faces their relationship.

The word quintessence is defined as the pure and concentrated essence of a substance or the most perfect embodiment of something. In simple terms it speaks to the heart and soul of a person, matter or thing.

So my initial approach to this is how a couple transforms from being so much in love, endless hours on the phone, the I love you, can’t wait to see you etc. to can someone please explain to me once again how in the world did I end up with this person?

Now the bible is clear and it says, “How can two walk together except they agree” Amos 3:3. Now most folks are under this grand illusion that because two are walking together (being married or in a relationship) they are in fact in accordance with one another. For those of us that are in a reality based relationships we are fully aware that the agreement that is understood in this passage of scripture speaks not of the walk but the role and support of each other as it relates to goals, vision and ultimately the future direction of the relationship. This agreement would have also deciphered the male as the head and his wife of partner being his support or help mate.

The quintessence of love, most importantly speaks primarily to the whole idea of being proactive in the relationship as opposed to being reactive. To be proactive is to initiate change in advance of events, rather than reacting to events or things that are impromptu, suggesting that our teachers and counselors became involve after the fact. This is a reactive behavior. The truth is when a man and a woman agree to be exclusive in a relationship there are really four parties involved. The primary party obviously would be the male and female that agreed to have this relationship. The additional parties would be the desires and fantasies of both individuals that have yet to be communicated between each other, however these desires and fantasies somehow becomes imprisoned in their minds with the assumption that telepathically they would be communicated.

This seemingly insignificant scenario if left unchallenged provides the breading ground for confusion that results in frustration and ends in separation. Again this provides a partial answer to the transformation from “I am so in love with you” to “How the hell did I ever become involved with you”. Unfortunately as Christians when these inevitable problems arise our leaders saturate us with a multitude of scriptures coated with a seasoning of prayer and believe the problems are solved, Again which I do not discount, however the origin of the problem has yet to be addressed.

The second scenario speaks to feelings generated by one or both parties, not towards each other but directed to persons outside of the relationship. In simple terms being in love with someone else other than your partner. These are the types of issues that are suppressed in our churches and plastered with “wives be submissive and husbands love your wives”. Yet, never addressing the reasons as to how or why these feelings came about. I want to make clear that I am not placing a stamp of approval on adultery or anything related to it, but to address these very common matters from a realistic point of view.

The conception of these problems began in the minds of these individuals and the birth was the display in their actions. Of course as you would realize this now produces confusion, because it appears as if you’re saying one thing to me (I love you) but your actions (lying , cheating, mood swings etc.) speaks to something entirely contrary to your words………..  How did we get here?

Well, getting there was simple and the simplicity of it was a major lack of understanding between both parties. Jesus made a profound statement to his disciples in Matthew 13: 13-15, he was quoting the prophet Isaiah, “For by hearing you will hear and not understand and by seeing you will see but not perceive”. He now begins to explain by first addressing the heart (mind) because all issues originate from the heart/mind of man. Jesus elaborates that their ears have become dull of hearing and their eyes have bin closed. Now, for clarity he is not just speaking about physical eyes and ears here but the ability to comprehend effectively what is being communicated to you. As proof of this he further elaborates, “Least at anytime they should see with their eyes and hear with their ears and should UNDERSTAND with their HEART thus resulting in a conversion or change.

So this basically dispels the old adage that most separations or differences between couples are due to a lack of communication. Communication is the impartation or interchange of thought, opinions or information by speech, writings or signs. It is also the means of exchanging information between two or more parties. So here is where the problem comes in, that is so frequently overlooked by preachers, teachers, advisors etc. Let’s use for an example a wife says to her husband that she doesn’t like the way he speaks to her in public settings, the husband responds by saying he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way that he speaks to her in public setting.

Now, according to the definition of communication, this couple has communicated, however both individuals have an entirely different UNDERSTANDING of what is being communicated. The wife is expressing how she “feels” concerning how her husband speaks to her. On the other hand the husband categorizes her complaint as an issue of what is right or wrong. So, as you can clearly see how understanding becomes the crux cause in the quintessence of love between a man and a woman. It is only when this root cause is addressed that we can then apply the applicable scriptures and prayers.

As a result my dear readers, I strongly suggest to you that you carefully analyze your relationship and review those original desires and fantasies that you once had concerning your partner and begin transferring those thoughts from your head and verbally communicating them to your partner with a concentrated effort of developing an understanding of how you feel, what you desire etc. Our error begins by believing that our partners should figure out what’s going on in our heads and when this doesn’t happen we begin to lose focus and  look else where for these desires and affections and exchanging them with others outside of the relationship.

As you would recall Jesus said, “You have ears but you can not hear, you possess eyes but you can not see, therefore your end result is a tragic lack of  understand. There is a song called “For the first time” by the singer Rod Stewart, In his song he begins to say to his wife that he’s been looking at her forever but has really never seen her, for the first time he’s looking in her eyes. He then ask her is these her hands, is that your smile, suggesting that he never took the time to understand this person that he has been with for so many years…… Could this be a clip from your life?

My words of wisdom for this wonderful Tuesday morning, put aside the past, do away with the assumptions, kick to the curb what should have, could have happened, and make up in your mind to discover what has been hidden in your relationship for so many years that was either overlooked or un-forgiveness has deprived you of it. We only live once my dear readers, and I am told that it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved before. Do not allow fear to control you. The bible says that there is no fear in love and perfect or complete love do away with fear. So if your life is saturated with fear then I suggest to you according to biblical principles you have a serious love deficiency.

Heavenly Father, I thank you for this wonderful morning that you have decided to grace us with the impartation of your wisdom. It is my prayer that you open the eyes and ears of every reader of this article, and super naturally empower them with understanding. Your word declares that wisdom is the principle thing therefore get wisdom, and in all thy getting we must get understanding. I now come in agreement with your word and call these things done in Jesus name. Amen!

Written by: Kevin L A Ewing

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

THE FOWLER-revised

A Fowler is characterizing as a skilled, patient and experienced hunter, who studies his victim intensely and accurately well in advance of launching an attack.

Nearly, one hundred percent of the time the Fowler is indiscernible or not visible to its victims, and as you read on, the victim has no reason to suspect.

The Bible says that God will surely deliver us from the snare or the traps of the Fowler, Psalm 91:3.
The truth is, only he can because we will never know who the Fowler is until an attack is made, and their attack is either disabling or fatal.

So I decided to ask God the question, how do I recognize the Fowler? And he instructed me to Psalm 55: 12-14. Now, before we go any further remember the Fowler has already prepared his trap for you. However, you have absolutely no idea of this because the Fowler does everything within his power to convince you that he has your best interest at heart. Always inquiring about the intimate details of your life yet, it is their patient, manipulative and subtle skill set that you are completely unaware of that will make him successful as it relates to his vicious plans against you.

So, in Psalm 55:12, we immediately discover that the Fowler is definitely not someone we would classify as our enemy, neither is he/she the one that displays hate towards us or resists us in any way. In fact, scripture reveals that the Fowler is the one that is equal to us. Always assisting, and giving the impression that they are always there for us. The one who guides us, the one which we are acquainted with, sharing all our secrets, and personal areas of our lives with, Giving details of marital bedroom business, etc. Wow! The ones we call close friends.

In fact, it is this gathering of intelligence of their victim, via their victims, that makes their plans to destroy their victim so successful. The truth is their victim unknowingly becomes a co-conspirator to their own demise through the ignorance of the Fowler’s real purpose in their lives.

Now, it becomes crystal clear that when an attack is launched, the success of that offense is solely based on the quality of information you’ve released using manipulation acquire through deception by the Fowler. Regrettably, these attacks usually conclude in its victims being at least disabled or worst case scenario fatally damaged. Since the attack is in a guerrilla warfare format, meaning a surprise attack the victim is hit hardest at the very core of their soul, (soul being their mind, thoughts and will, the administrator of their entire being) because surprisingly the one who is perpetrating this great evil (the Fowler) was always considered to be their close friend, with absolutely no reason to suspect otherwise.

The research will reveal that all Fowlers enter all relationships with hidden agenda. Sadly these people are extremely unhappy with themselves and see the need to covertly partner with others to inflict unimaginable misery on them. The Fowler's understanding of happiness is glorying in the pain of others, and at the same time being key players in the initiation of that misery. One must wonder how do these folks live with themselves? Well, the truth is they don't live with themselves because they are forever changing faces and personalities to accommodate their victim's lust for genuine friendship all to utterly destroy their victim.

As a reference point, all friends have the potential to become fowlers in our lives, based on the above revelatory insight. We are now charged with the responsibility of identifying and extinguishing the diabolic plans of the Fowler/s that are clearly not favorable towards us or anything that concerns us. Scripture says, “He that keeps his mouth simultaneously keeps his life: but he that open wide his lips shall have destruction” Proverbs 13:3.


Heavenly Father, once again I adore you, more so for this divine revelation, that you have so graciously given to me for your people. This revelation is just another sign of your promise of pouring out your Spirit in the last days. Thank you, Father, that you have chosen me, as a recipient of the outpouring of your Spirit.  I now command every present Fowler and potential Fowler in the lives of your people to be immediately exposed, and their evil deceptive plans are brought to a screeching halt and destroyed indefinitely in the matchless name of your son Jesus Christ. Amen!

By Kevin L A Ewing

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Putting the pieces back together

As a child I can recall when my brother and I would accidentally break one of my mother’s figurines, it would strike immediate fear in us. The fear was two fold a) what she would do to us if she found out and b) how do we put this figurine back together after being broken in so many pieces?

The above scenario is very similar to life, when things become broken in our lives. We take on an immediate fear, that in some cases paralyzes us physically and also solution wise. Secondly our minds amplify the pieces of our situation in terms of making it seem impossible to put things back together.

In today’s teaching it is my intent to renew our minds in this very common area of negative thinking that relates to things being broken that has disable us in the process of moving forward. Things being broken suggest people or things not operating in harmony with their purpose. Purpose being the original intent of someone or something

In the book of Esther, we are told of Queen Esther a Jew, being informed by her uncle Mordecai of a decree that the king was tricked into signing to have all the Jews destroyed. Mordecai further informed her that she needs to make an appeal to the king on the Jews behalf to resolve this matter. In Esther’s mind she began to see and verbally communicate all the negatives concerning the broken pieces that appeared before her, she said, “It is against the law to approach the king without him first summonsing an individual via the stretching forth of his golden scepter which is punishable by death” She further added that she had not been called by the king within the last thirty days.

Esther’s behavior is so typical of when we face situations that appear so grand or unfixable, that it literally sucks the life out of any possible solutions. Our minds become inflated with so much negativity that we leave little to no room to bring about a solution. It becomes convenient to not proceed forward, but just accept thing as presented to us, as if there is no other way out. Well the devil still is a liar, because there is an abundance of ways out awaiting us to act upon them.  

Mordecai had to quickly remind Esther that if she does nothing concerning this matter, she would not escape this pending massacre and that deliverance will arise from else where for the Jews. He then went on to say, “For who knows if you were not called to the kingdom for such a time as this?”

Mordecai was making it crystal clear to Esther that apart of her purpose in her earthly kingdom was to exercise spiritual authority, which is the only adhesive in putting the pieces of a broken life back together.

I am saying to you my readers, that the broken areas of your life are indicators from God that you lack spiritual glue. That broken relationship, family, job, finances and the likes is in desperate need of spiritual healing before any permanent coming together can take place. To attempt to put it back together out side of God is to basically place a demand on a repeat action that will continually give the same displeasing results. At best it can only equal a temporal fix. Facts will reveal that after so many temporal fixes discouragement is mandatory.

Maybe you’ve messed up in your Christian walk, you’ve fornicated, committed adultery or whatever. You feel so condemn that you’re not worthy to continue. Here me and here me well! This is absolute non-sense GET OUT OF YOUR SELF ASSIGNED STATE OF DESPIRE AND PROCEED FORWARD. Those that have condemn you are more than likely doing the same thing they’re condemning you for, but have not yet been caught, so they feel the need to appoint themselves as judge jury and prosecutor, HYPOCRITES!

The bible is clear, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness 1 John 1:1. In putting the pieces back together there are five points that are a must and they are:
  • Confession and repentance of all sins
  • A made up and determine mind
  • Divorcing yourself from the negative opinions and suggestions of others
  • Begin building your confidence by reading your bible
  • And finally pray with great expectation, that what you’re praying for will happen

As I mention to you earlier, my brother and I began to brain storm as to how we can put this figurine back together again, remember we also had the option of blaming each other, but what good what that do? Putting the pieces together requires one getting a mental visual of the bigger picture and visualizing everyone in that picture benefiting.

My words of wisdom for you this morning is simply this, rather than saying why is this happening to me? Ask yourself what is my purpose in all of this? Begin to see yourself as a problem solver and you being place in this situation at this particular time to bring about a change that could happen no other way and by no other person. Like Esther shrug off that defeated spirit and walk in confidence with a boldness to subdue rather than being subdued.

Say to yourself and convince yourself I AM A WORLD CHANGER I HAVE BEEN CREATED TO EASE, COMFORT, AND BRING DIVINE ORDER TO THIS SITUATION. For I am not alone in this but God is upholding me by the right hand of his righteousness, this is the day that I have made up my mind to be different, think different, perform different all in an attempt to get a different result!

Heavenly Father I bless you for your word, for your word is the power that holds all things together. Your word declares that you are the true vine your father is the husbandman and we are the branches. It is my prayer that you provoke in us your branches the ability to put the pieces back together in our live and the lives of others, only this time with you being the beginning and the end of the process.  We acknowledge that you were the missing ingredient that was giving us failure as an end result. Please forgive us and demonstrate your glory In and through us in the powerful name of your son Jesus Christ. Amen!

Written by: Kevin L. A Ewing

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

The purpose driven relationship

Even though every relationship has its individual purpose for its existence, the success of that relationship is solely based on an ingredient that if not present, paves the way for absolute frustration and ultimate failure. This ingredient is called synergy.

Our teaching today will take us along the part of some biblical principles that if followed precisely, will guarantee us not just success in our relationships with others, but an appreciation and value for that person in spite of their differences. We’ll also discover that it is in the differences of others that if cultivated properly will open to us a deeper admiration as to why we were attracted to that person to begin with and concurrently reveal to us things about ourselves that we were unaware of.

According to our bible, after God was almost completed with his creation, he made mention that it is not good that the man should be alone. Now, prior to this statement God said that everything thus far in his creation was good, meaning it was beneficial or profitable. So when he said that it was not good that the man should be alone it is not to suggest that God had a flaw in his creation. However, the emphasis is that it is not beneficial that the man be alone. This further prompts one’s understanding that nothing in God’s creation was made to operate independent of itself. Nevertheless, all creation including man needs someone or something to join with to produce or increase more than they did individually.

Thus bringing about our first principle in reference to the purpose driven relationship, Synergy is defined as the combined efforts of two or more people or things in an effort to produce or increase more than they would have achieved individually. This being the case, then when applied to a relationship it now places a demand on the relationship through combine efforts to produce or increase more than each party did as individuals.

I think now is a good time to stop right here and begin analyzing mentally your relationships, with a view of identifying if as a couple you’ve increased or decreased. This simple examination can determine whether you’re progressing, which is the original purpose of the relationship or are you digressing, meaning moving about aimlessly with no fixed point or reference accompanied with the warp idea of whatever happens, happens (a retard relationship).

The bible now goes on to say to us that after God had identify that the man can not go beyond a certain level of increase unless he is accompanied by someone, God decided to make a help meet for him, like every other living organism in his creation. A help meet is one that is suitable, proper and fitting whose purpose is to assist in the present and future increase and production of the relationship totally and completely void and depleted of selfishness and self aggrandizement.

This now brings us to our second principle, which really should have been our first. That being divine order ordained by God. What am I saying here? I am saying the head of the relationship must be primarily established. Just in case there is confusion in regard to this statement, the head is the MAN via God’s command. The head is not determined by size, wealth, education or status, but by whom God has determined the head should be from the beginning of creation. As proof of this when Eve ate the forbidden fruit absolutely nothing changed in the Garden of Eden or creation for that matter. It was only when the man (the head of the relationship) ate of the forbidden fruit that everything fell apart. Anything with more than one heads I am told is considered a monster and spells the recipe for disaster. Again I want to make clear these principles are not limited to just romantic relationships but all relationships. Outside of the marital institution and male female relationships, the head is not limited to a male but he or she that is suitable, fitting and has incorporated the mind of a leader. However, if the leader is a female this female ultimate leader should be Jesus Christ.

The opposite of these principles creates the term antagonism. Antagonism is this case would be defined as two or more people or thing in their combined efforts are now producing less than they were doing as individuals….. Wow! This reminds me of the saying, “I can do bad all by myself” The dictionary reveals to us that opposition, resistance, rebellion, aggression, hostility, animosity and enmity give us the sum total of antagonism. Any relationship operating under this order, unfortunately its tenants are delusional as to how a real relationship must function.

However the purpose driven relationship possesses something that no other relationship has outside of it, firstly, respect is a must meaning you do not have the right to change anyone but appreciate their uniqueness and use the synergy of the relationship to compromise with each others differences. Again, it is these differences that if cultivated properly it gives a greater appreciation for the person, and reveals another side of you that show the importance of that person being in your life. This is what synergy does; it manufactures the best in both parties, and does not attempt to create what you want the other party to be according to you. Synergy requires complete and absolute UNITY and had initially established order from the beginning of the relationship. So, as fruits of this relationship, respect literally sets up invisible borders that both parties knows how far to proceed with each other, and if violated apologizes are not only mandatory but immediate.

Scripture now reveals the power of synergy when it said, after the man and the woman became one (Unity) God blessed them. Now, before we proceed lets make clear here what exactly God blessed. He did not bless mess, meaning he blessed a union or institution that had a head, accompanied with a help meet operating on one accord. In fact any relationship where the boss, husband, chief etc becomes subject to the subordinate or made to be inferior, this my friends is a cursed relationship that must produce disaster, pain, grief and perpetual agony and hardship.

After God blessed his understanding of a relationship, five things came about as a result of the blessing. That relationship must now:
  • Be fruitful
  • Multiply
  • Replenish
  • Subdue
  • And finally dominate whatever comes up against it

All of these things as you would have noticed speak to increase, and accomplishing more than they were doing as individuals. This is the power of synergy according to Genesis 1:28.

So my dear readers, I’ve asked you earlier to review your present or past relationship, now, what have you discovered? Did it produce more or less? Did it take away or add to your life? Now before you begin to point fingers as to whom the problem was, just remember a failed relation requires the participation of both parties, in this sense one party wants to assume the head when they’re not or one party is promoting synergy and the other is campaigning for antagonism. In both scenarios failure is the inevitable.

Just before I conclude, I would like for you to indulge me for just a few second more, to show you further the supernatural power of synergy in a purpose driven relationship honored by God. In the building of the tower of Babel according to genesis 11: 1-9 two principles are demonstrated here which will sum up what we’ve discussed so far. A) God said that the rule of synergy dictates that "when folks become one (unity) absolutely nothing will be restrained from them, which they imagine to do" Genesis 11:6. Mighty God! Are you getting this folks? As far as God is concern the mere fact that this couple, group, organization etc. are operating in the law of synergy, if they just imagine whatever it is they decide to do it is a done deal in the sight of God, with no force spiritual or physical being able to restrain them.

The second principle is the principle of division, which dictates that when one or more of the parties involved resist, rebel, oppose etc. the general understanding of the order of the relationship or a misplacing of leadership this conceives confusion and ultimately produces division Genesis 11: 7-8. Thus, giving us the word Babel, which in the Hebrew language means confusion!

Heavenly father, I thank you because you are not the author of confusion. On the contrary you are a God of order. It is my prayer today that you empower my readers and myself to follow your blue print that only produces order. I take authority of any and all bewitching powers that will attempt to bring confusion to us, your people. I also command a spiritual flood similar to the days of Noah that will annihilate any and all spirits that is anti your will for our lives in the matchless and glorious name of your son Jesus Christ. Amen!

Written by: Kevin L.A Ewing