Wow! What a beautiful day to be alive! It's a pleasure to challenge our thinking once again. Today, I want to address the single ladies and share some godly wisdom with them. Scripture says, "He who FINDS a wife finds a good thing" (Proverbs 18:22). We often read this verse without realizing its deeper meaning.
"What was King Solomon implying when he said, "He that finds a wife?" Does he mean that one should look for someone who is already married? If that's the case, can we say that he's promoting adultery? The answer is no! In fact, what Solomon is saying through divine inspiration is quite simple. A man should seek a woman who possesses the traits of a good wife, such as a wifely character, behavior, attitude, and overall mindset."
Ladies, please don't come for me; hear me out for a moment. You cannot qualify for this wife position if your sole focus is to achieve marriage instead of being the true definition of a wife. Believe me when I say that a wife and a marriage are two separate conditions and positions. In fact, I will take it a step further; the actual institution of marriage must require the mindset of both parties to be aware that husband and wife should have been established mentally before physically declared by a pastor or marriage officer.
The marital union was designed for the couple involved to be reciprocal as it relates to catering to one another and working in harmony to achieve the goals of the marriage union. Unfortunately, with an anti-wife or even anti-husband mindset, the union becomes a liability from the beginning instead of an asset, as we'll discover.
Simply put, a woman should be a wife mentally first before legally becoming a wife through marriage. It is only then, according to scripture, that when she is sought and found by a man, she becomes a good thing. The word good means that which is beneficial.
In support of this revelation, God said In Genesis that it is not good that man should be alone. Not that the man being alone was a flaw in God's creation, but this aspect of his creation was incomplete (Eve now becomes necessary).
Interestingly, in the Bible, God did not say he would make a wife for Adam. Instead, he stated he would make him a helpmate. This description emphasizes the role and function of the "good thing" or benefit that is Adam's wife. A helpmate is someone who assists, supports, helps, encourages, and promotes her partner. She is someone who is compatible, proper, and well-suited to her partner. This is what a wife should be, mentally and emotionally.
In a marriage, the man is considered his wife's head and protector. However, this is only possible if both parties accept and respect this divine order. The man should seek guidance, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding from God to fulfill his role as the head of the household, as God is the architect of this union. The ultimate purpose of this union can only be achieved with unity and mutual support between the husband and wife. Any division between them will have negative consequences for their relationship. It is important to remember that a house divided against itself will inevitably fall.
The opposite or resistance to this order produces the Jezebel and Ahab spirit. Suggesting the wife taking on the head position (Jezebel spirit) and the husband being led by his wife (Ahab spirit). As a quick note, Jezebel cannot exist unless there is an Ahab; Ahab surrendered his authority to Jezebel, thus producing the following end result: confusion, frustration, anger, hate, unforgiveness, pride, jealousy, craftiness, manipulation, intimidation, illegal domination and eventually death.
"Will there be no conflict between these divine unions? Of course not. However, it is more likely that they will stay together rather than separate because the benefits of the relationship outweigh the differences they experience. Furthermore, applying God's principles regarding these unions ensures their success."
Ladies, my words of wisdom for you today are that you should prepare yourself mentally to be a wife before you decide to become one physically. As it is commonly known, our behavior is influenced by our thoughts. Therefore, it is essential to observe the qualities of a potential partner's behavior that make them suitable for marriage. This should be a guiding principle when considering a marriage partner."
Kevin L. A Ewing
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