There is absolutely nothing wrong with starting over. The key to starting over would be to ensure
that you do not repeat what you did in your former situation and to avoid treating everyone as a suspect in your current matters, based on what your previous position has done to you.
I view starting over as a test, meaning, after being taught a lesson a test is then given to determine what the student has learned or extracted from the assigned lesson. It is so unfortunate that in a lesson of faithfulness, love, compassion, and unity the average person comes out being bitter, angry, hostile and fully prepared to pollute future relationships with their venom. I can assure you these were not the intended results expected from the lesson. A relationship not working out does not mean there was nothing to be learned from it.
You see my friend, you should not let the participants in a lesson such as a husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, Boss etc distract or pollute your understanding of what the lesson is attempting to offer you. Instead, you must look beyond their behavior, attitudes and whatever else they're trying to distract you with and observe how it's attempting to developing you into a more patient, faithful, compassionate, loving and wise person in spite of the nonsense of others.
Life has a built-in mechanism in regards to dealing with those that have given you a hard time during the lesson, and it's called "What goes around comes around." Do not judge others based on how others have judged you. Do not beat folks with the same stick you were beaten with. The negative person you have become is evidence that the lesson has polluted you into being hostile, corrupt, resentful, bitter, etc., THIS WAS NOT WHO YOU ORIGINALLY WERE! DO NOT LET OTHERS CORRUPT YOUR ORIGINAL!
Give others a chance, however, scripture says the following, "Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work is pure, and whether it be right" Proverbs 20:11. In other words, a person's repeated, consistent behavior is revealing who they indeed are!
My words of wisdom this morning is simply this, you must view life's situations as lessons preparing you for something else. Do not allow the characters involved to pollute the purpose of the lesson that will as a result cause you to misjudge people, places and things in the future. Those that fail their test after the lesson will always repeat what was intended for them to learn from day one!
Written By: Kevin L A Ewing