THE REALITY OF BEING REAL!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok! Maybe I am spending too much time to myself, or it could be that I am too much of an analysis. However in any event I am beginning to appreciate the unadulterated fact that in today’s world principally in relationships, and that is relationships being (work, romantic, platonic, business etc.) People have a difficult time being real to others, or even to themselves for that matter. So therefore I am now left with the question that is suspended in my head, and I’m sure you’re probably wondering the same thing, and that is, what is the reality of being real?

This entire subject is one of frustration for me, frustration meaning; that I am disgusted with the fact that people will deliberately tell you untruths, in a desperate attempt to take advantage of the genuine innocence you display in your desire to believe whatever it is they are telling you. So I guess at times during the reading of this article I can be perceived as being really emotive with some of my wording, but please indulge me for a few minutes so you can get a full understanding of what it is I’m trying to express, and I am almost certain most would agree to the logic I am trying to convey.

As a young boy growing up it was normal as children for your peers to try and impress one another by exaggerating what their parents did for a living, pretending to be someone their not, or even by just lying, claiming to have stuff that they knew they really didn’t have. Now as kids this could be considered normal behavior, because the intent of this “game” so to speak was, to win the favor of the person you were telling this stuff to, so that hopefully you can be friends, or at best you would have made a good impression on them.

Ironically, some people, after I guess, consistent practice at it takes it into adulthood and decide not to view it as a “game” anymore, but as a way of life, or should we say their reality. Interestingly enough this is where it becomes frightening, because at this point it now becomes a question of not their reality anymore, but instead a question of their integrity.

Now before I proceed any further I want to make abundantly clear, that this is not reserve ed to a certain set of people, but to anyone that gives you what I call a false reality or the blatant display of well crafted untruth to ultimately convince you that what they are saying is in fact reality: and they can be preachers, managers, spouses, bosses and even friends. Whoever exhibits this type of behavior in due course falls into this category, and should ask themselves what is the reality of being real?

In my research I have discovered that these people would use their so called “titles or labels” as a persuasive instrument to confuse what you know to be reality. A classic example; you caught your partner with someone else in a compromising position, but yet when you confront them about it, this is their normal response; “as you husband you think I would do something like that to you.” Another example; your boss is a repeatedly telling the staff, how the company believes in family life, and the motto at this company is family first, however if you ask for a day off to attend you child sports day, or some event that your child is participating in during your working hours, that same boss wants to know if you have lost your mind. So here is my point, people would have you believe that because they carry the title of husband, boss, manager, etc. that all of a sudden their title or label made them an intellectual and the person they are trying to sell this stuff to has transforms themselves into a Jackass, and supposedly have no sense of reasoning.

This now takes me into a new arena of reasoning, and that is do these people critically analyze whatever it is that they are saying to you? Or are they that self absorbed that they believe whatever they say you must just lap up and print that in stone as reality?

Well my research has yield that these people see you as one of two scenarios or even both a) they obviously disrespect you as a human being and do not care how you may think or feel regarding the elusive truth that they so eagerly flee when speaking to you or, b) they do not care how you may view their integrity, after all they are the Boss, the spouse, the preacher, whatever, and again these titles are the halos that they hide under to exude some saintly appearance, as to say I would never deceive you.

However the question can be asked, who exactly is to blame? Is it the person that is trying to make you believe something that you know is not a reality, or could it be you, acting as a subliminal co-conspirator to the Inaccuracies of the reality they are attempting to spoon feed you.

Well remember the question I asked as the topic of this article: and that question was what is the reality of being real? Well the reality is you know that these people are being dishonest and untruthful with what they say to you and very little of it has ever truly became a reality, and you know this because there integrity speaks for itself generally. However you must take a stance in a respectful manner and be real with them, by letting them know that you are not a fool and that you did not fall off of the idiot truck. You then need to point out the inaccuracies in their stories, backed up by proof of the inaccuracies you have discovered, and finally letting them know that you would appreciate if they would be more realistic and respectful towards you like you have been towards them.

Finally, I guess we can all agree that after all that have been said, people will only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Their illusion of a reality does not have to be your reality if you would only be real with them, rather than subliminally working with them to your own demise.

BY: Kevin L.A Ewing

THE WANDERER

Who is the wanderer? The word wanderer comes from the root word wander, and it is defined as: moving about aimlessly, without purpose or cause. It also means to stray or roam, to move from a fixed purposed position.

Many folks are in relationships being led unfortunately by wanderers or are involved with them somehow. These are people who have no direction, plan or purpose for the relationship or themselves for that matter.

It was interesting to me to see the bible’s view on the principle of the wanderer. Hear what it says: “The man that wanders out of the way of understanding shall remain in the congregation of the dead…..Woooh!!!

As usual what does this proverb mean? Well, we must seek the meaning of understanding, which is to grasp the significance, implications, or importance of something.

Therefore the wanderer would be the person who can never make a decision and stick to it, high today and low tomorrow. Always making promises only too break them. They are more eager to tell a lie than speak the truth, their sum total is a life that is directionless and deleted of worth while production.

The wanderer insists on not grasping the significance or importance of the relationship. So, his resting place is with the dead, which is symbolic of things having no life, purpose or meaning

In conclusion, folks that find themselves with these types of people eventually lose their direction and dreams and eventually become like the wanderer or extremely frustrated. Please! Stay away from the wanderer.

Kevin L A Ewing

LACK

The word lack is defined as: deficiency or absence of something needed, desirable, or customary.

Now, there are people who strongly believe that their moments, or periods of lack began when they did not have anymore money or fell short in a certain area. However the process of lack began way before then.

Make no mistake, lack begins first in our minds. The law that governs this process is found of course in the bible and it says, "So a man thinks in his heart, that he will become". The heart here is symbolic of one's mind. So, in essence my body is a slave to my mind or thoughts. Our bodies must without question perform and behave according to our thinking.

If I consistently think not enough, just enough, every time I put one foot forward I have to take two back, I don't have two pennies to rub together etc....... then if you believe this garbage, and clearly you do because you're always speaking it, then you are literally creating your future.

You have activated a law that is working to your demise. The law says, " What a man plants now he will reap it later (Gal 6:7). Ironically you say it yourself all the time, you just word it different........ remember making these statements: what goes around comes around, if you spit in the wind it comes back in your face, today for me tomorrow for you etc.

Wow!! do you now see how ignorant we are to God's law, that benefits us according to how we use them.

Lastly, The WORD says, what ever I confess with my mouth and believe in my heart, and doubt not, I will have what I say............. YOU ARE WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW, BECAUSE OF WHAT YOU'VE BEEN SAYING AND BELIEVING.


SOLUTION: CLEAN YOUR MIND AND THE BODY WHICH IS A SLAVE TO THE OUR THOUGHTS WILL FOLLOW WITHOUT QUESTION.


Kevin L A Ewing

THE LAW OF ASSOCIATION

Have you ever listened to a crazy song before, one that you don’t even like. It has now been about thirty minutes since you have heard the song, and now you are probably waiting in some line and you find yourself singing this unlinked crazy song word for word?

Well, this is a result of the “law of Association” This law of Association is defined as: whatever, person, place, or environment I associate myself with over a period of time I subconsciously imitate it.

This is interesting because, you don’t have to sit and make an effort to learn the environment, or person; it is somehow absorbed by your subconscious.

Here is the biblical proof: The bible says, “He that walk with wise men will become wise, and he that associates himself with fools will become foolish-(paraphrased)

So, here is the point, if I associate myself with negative, complaining, murmuring, kind, loving, generous people etc.
Eventually I will begin to display these traits.

Remember how pleasant you were before that last relationship? Have you noticed how uncaring you’ve become since you have met that uncaring person?

All I am trying to point out here is life is consist of laws, which means that nothing just happens. Whatever happens to us, with us or at us is because of some knowing or unknowing law that we have participated in and yielding the results in our every day life.

We Need Others To Advance

One of the beauties of life is calculating the purpose of everyone that has ever entered our lives. Every person that will ever enter our life, the sole purpose is to contribute to our existence to fulfill our purpose, whether we are aware of it or not. Whether it's good or bad, the cores of their contribution carry the seed of developing us! This makes the journey of life quite interesting because, for the most part, we cannot predict what that particular individual will offer in terms of their contribution. In other words, their contribution will add or take away from us. Regardless, there will be a change in us via the association during our time with them or even after their departure. The quality of that change is dependent on how they have affected us.

Our bible tells us that all things work together for our good, indicating that everything is necessary. God designed nothing to work independently but must connect with someone or something to produce something more significant or at least forward motion.

We need people, not just some people but all people, especially those who hate, despise, detest, undermine, etc. I know this probably makes no sense to you but watch the spiritual principle. God said that everything in his creation was good except that man should not be alone Genesis 2: 18.

Man always needs someone, something, or some environment to assist him in advancing despite how these people or places present themselves. The corporate world calls this process synergy. Synergy is the combined effort of two or more things or people to produce more than they did individually. To be clear, synergy is not based on who likes you or dislikes you. It's about putting aside differences and focusing on a common goal to advance or produce more). So, in understanding this spiritual truth, it is only fitting to determine that we need haters, we need backstabbers, we need folks that love us, appreciate us, etc. The truth is these people were predetermined to our lives for the sole purpose of advancing us despite their character, attitude, or behavior. These folks came equipped with what God knows to be a necessity for us concerning present and future events, again, despite the packaging that they arrive in.

Simply put, our lives are a divine setup. The primary difficulty in this revelation is grasping the fact that we have to accept the undesirables for who they are because it is in who they are that is teaching us directly or indirectly and at the same time preparing us for future progress.

So, in essence, our enemies, friends, and environments are, in fact, our teachers, and our appointed times with them would be the classroom of life that is making us better through these extraordinary experiences, be it good or bad.

Therefore once we would have put aside our personal views, we can now see more clearly the purpose for these folk's presence in our lives. Thus, no matter who was is or will be a part of our existence here on earth, we must thank God in advance for choosing them to advance us and to make us better through the many experiences they've afforded us.

Scripture sums this entire process up with the following statement, "For whom he (God) did foreknow he also did predestinate, to be conformed to the image of his Son" Romans 8: 29. Simply put, because God knew us in advance of our earthly existence, he also knew who and what it would take to change us to the likeness of His son Jesus Christ. Bottom line: We need people to advance us in the process of becoming like Jesus!

Father, I now understand why you've commanded us to bless and not curse those that curse us, To pray for those that use us and say all manner of things against us. Thank you for this revelation of the necessity of all people in your attempts to advance us. I pray that the eyes of every reader of this article will begin to illuminate the greater reality that you've designed every person, place, and environment to advance us. We bless you and praise you for your wisdom in the matchless name of Jesus Christ. Amen!


Minister Kevin L A Ewing

kevinewing@coralwave.com

The Law of Disorder

We immediately think of confusion and disorganized things when we hear the word disorder. This is true; however, we rarely consider the reality of order in initiating disorder. Simply put, there are mechanisms known or unknowingly being followed or put in place that will secure a specific end result.

We must remember that nothing just happens, no matter how small or large, good or evil, organized or disorganized. The reality is all things are governed by laws and rules, and in this case, some laws apply to the disorder we are about to explore.

The book of James 3:16 speaks to the law of disorder, and I quote, "For where envying and strife there is confusion and every evil work."

Now! Let's consider the facts that are presented in the mentioned scripture. Firstly, for confusion or disorder to be produced requires envy and strife. So let's get a clearer understanding of these two words, so we can comprehend how the synergy of these words creates what we know to be disorder.

To envy is to be discontented with the success and or accomplishments of others. On the other hand, strife is struggling or resisting something or someone.

Therefore, in an atmosphere where there are minds that envy the success and advancement of others, these same minds resist (strife) any efforts made by those they envy.  

You are about to witness that when envy and strife conceive, they will give birth to disorder. However, the protocol of this disorder will be initiated by confusion. So, if you were to observe challenges in a marriage, among coworkers, etc., this order or protocol is, for the most part, unknowingly followed.

Rather than synergy among partners, coworkers, spouses, business associates, etc. Folks become more personal rather than purposeful simply by allowing these two agents, envy and strife, that will eventually create division in their relationships. So, the disorder will cause them to produce less as a team than they were doing as individuals. 

The second fact of that mentioned scripture is after confusion has been achieved, James said, "and every evil work"…….. Wow!!! Now, what exactly is he suggesting here? He says that once envy and strife have conceived and produced confusion, there must be something to maintain this confusion/disorder. This is where evil comes in. The disorder is literally a nest for unethical activities.

Therefore, wherever there is disorder, I expect to ascertain such evils as witchcraft, adultery, fornication, compulsive liars, bitter and hateful folks, etc., simply because the grounds are conducive. If there is no order in a church, your job, etc., I can guarantee inappropriate affairs, unfairness, sickness, cancers, hypertension, and the like. They are only there because they have a legal right to be there because of the law of disorder. So, restore order, and you will simultaneously evict the agents responsible for the disorder.


THE FIRST LAW OF ORDER IS: WHERE THERE IS NO ORDER, IT CAN ONLY BE REPLACED BY DISORDER.

Kevin L A Ewing
ewinglakevin@icloud.com
kevinlaewing.blogspot.com

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Separation is Necessary for Elevation

When a snake moves to different stages of its live, the process of that is the shedding of its skin. Well, the equivalent of that process for us as human beings would be the shedding of environment or people.

The bible said that when God called Abram, who later became Abraham, God did not ask him how his family was, is all well, etc.
Instead, the first thing God said was remove yourself from your country, and kindred. In other words, separate yourself from your environment and those that you are familiar with.

Now, this may seem somewhat harsh, but this is God’s way of separating the sheep from the goats, so that the sheep can hear the Shepard clearly.

One of the initial signs of promotion or elevation to one’s life begins with discord, or challenges with those that are closest to you, or the place that you are presently , seems as if you have either out grown it, or it’s rejecting of you for no apparent reason.

In reality, your season has come to an end for those folks and that place. All that you needed from them has been achieved, and simultaneously qualified you for the next stage of your life.

To bring them along with you, would disrupt this natural growth process that has been specifically designed to elevate you.

People that are not progressing in life are those that refuse to let go of the people and places that has exhausted its purpose for them. This is why death is necessary, because life gives purpose and death is the conclusion of purpose.

Anyone who resists this natural growth process literally welcomes a life of frustration, confusion and repetition of places and people that they know are hindering them from achieving more that life has to offer.


By: Kevin L A Ewing